It's important to forgive other
people, otherwise you hold some form of resentment inside. Holding this
resentment inside forms a defence of sorts, within you, meaning when faced
with similar circumstances, you'll react from abase source of negativity.
This resentment means you'll face these circumstances with different
people, judging them based on your past. This resentments also means
you'll face different circumstances with the same people, judging them on
the actions from the original circumstance.
Forgiving someone for acting in a way which has
hurt you, upset you, embarrassed you, shamed you, blamed you, angered you
etc. Remember; these emotions are YOURS. You have the sole ability to work
through the attached emotions and by doing so, forgiving someone will
become a whole lot easier.
But because we hold on to the hurt; the pain; the
anger - it is impossible to forgive.
Understanding
When you can understand that every person is living their life the way
they are meant to, to learn their lessons, and pay back karma. Forgiveness
is easier.
When we can not forgive someone, we are
essentially blaming them for how we feel. Even if their actions involve a
situation which went wrong, it is our undying feelings that are preventing
the act of forgiveness. We are angry at the results, upset at how things
have turned out, jealous, bitter... It helps to realise that every one of
us is human; and even though some people appear to be soul-less or
heartless, it is mostly because they have built up barricades to protect
themselves.
We are all human
Forgiveness involves acceptance of the person as
they are. Remember too; you are not perfect. You've said and done things
in your past which you wouldn't do now.
People all react in different ways to the same
situation. We do so because we have all had different upbringings and had
different morals and values around us as we have grown up. Forgive other
human beings; because... because they are NOT you.
Because they are not you, they were acting from
who they are and from what they have been taught.
Forgiving Yourself
The other person you should forgive is yourself. Even if you have done
nothing wrong, you must forgive yourself for having such feelings that
require giving someone else forgiveness.
To feel anger, resentment, jealousy, even things like hatred, are no good
for our spirits. You can forgive the way you feel. But you have to want to
forgive yourself.
If you truly can not find forgiveness within you,
then you have to find a way to let go and move on.
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