Stress
If we always do our very best, we can not
blame ourselves
if we do not reach our goal.
Combat stress by not taking on too much. We
feel stressed when we feel pressured to move on to the next 'thing', or by
having too much to do in a limited timespan.
Combat
stress by giving 100% to whatever you are doing, and not looking to the next
thing on the list until you've finished the first.
Combat stress by dropping the
worry, dropping the
anxiety and dropping the
fears.
Ok, that's all easy in theory; but we all get
stressed out from time to time. Occasionally just for short bursts, but at
it's worst it can be an ongoing burden which pulls us down into a
breakdown and can make us seriously ill.
Life goes on.
You can choose to stress if you want
to, or you can make the decision to take one step at a time.
Try to take one step at a time, try to remove the
pressure. Tell yourself you WILL complete everything and simply break it off
into small pieces.
We put pressure on ourselves, we allow
other people to put pressure on us. If you don't want to feel stressed -
then choose not to accept pressure!
It is important to take time for yourself. So if you are
planning a schedule, you must also schedule in time to STOP!
- Stop and eat without eating on the go.
- Stop and take a relaxing bath, not a quick shower.
- Stop and play a quick game, we all have the standard PC card games.
- Stop and read a few pages of a book, watch a 30 minute TV Show.
Before you say 'I cant stop' You have to realise that when
you take time to stop, you rejuvenate. When you are rejuvenated you can then
re-approach your tasks with fresh energy.
Deadlines...
If you are really having problems reaching a deadline,
don't be afraid to ask for an extension. With truth and honesty you may find
that the deadline can be extended.
If you have promised delivery on a certain date, then if
you are honest (and not say the dog ate it or the plumbing went), then you
may find the recipient may understand and extend your dates. Which in turn
gives you more time. It's not shameful to say it's more than you can handle.
It's honest.
If the deadline is an event, which can not be changed or
rescheduled. Is there anyone you can ask to help you. Even if they can't
help you with the actual work involved, they may be able to offer you
support by ensuring you have a friendly 30 minute relaxing phone call.
If you can not change the deadline, or meet the deadline.
Sometimes we simply have to admit 'defeat'. The important thing to remember
is that you did your best.
Decide
that
you can achieve what you need to achieve without feeling the effects of
stress.
Demands
Throughout our life people place
demands on us; which is ok to a limit.
I mean our boss, our customers and our work IS demanding at times. And
when we are children, our parents and teachers put demands on us too.
These demands are either taken on board or rejected through defiance. When
we reject demands we know that we can no longer live within the
constraints being placed upon us. So we leave home, quit our job or take a
demotion.
When our friends, family and loved ones place demands on us, we feel
obliged to do things out of love, out of dependency, or simply because we
care. Yet, again; eventually, when the demands over-reach us, or when we
feel unappreciated, we start feeling resentment and obliged to do things.
Demands are made because of a need to control something. Work demands are
there to control customer service, profits and productivity. School
demands are there to control the level of education within the country.
But why do our loved ones, friends and family put demands on us?
Well; firstly because we allow them to.
Secondly; they do it out of a need to control a situation.
Telling someone what they can and can't do, is a control situation - even
when said in encouragement. (because we encourage to try to sway someone
to believe in themselves).
When you find yourself making demands, or on the receiving end of demands,
it is important to ensure where those demands are coming from and if they
will benefit YOU. If the demands take you out of your comfort zone, then
you need to find a way to stand up for yourself.
Look at the nature of the demand, and ask yourself why it is there. Ask
yourself WHY does this person want to control this action.
If you've been told to be someplace, or not be someplace. If you've been
told not to do this/or to that. What is the core motivation behind that
demand?
There is a difference between demands and requests.
And a request can take any form... it can take the form of explanation,
which allows you to make up your own mind, it can take the form of a plea
for help or consideration. But no where in that discussion should anyone
tell YOU what to do. You must do what feels right. Else, there will always
be a sense of discomfort.
Recommended Reading
Aromatherapy
Scents for aiding stress include:- Bergamot,
cedarwood, chamomile, all citrus oils, neroli, patchouli, geranium,
lavender, rose, rosemary, sandalwood, ylang ylang
