Waiting involves
patience and an ability to 'let
go', 'let be' as well as a relaxed attitude.
We've all heard the saying, "A watched pot never boils". Which isn't
strictly true; if just FEELS as though it'll never boil because all of our
focus is on that water. When we divert our attentions onto other things;
the water appears to boil a lot quicker.
When we are consciously waiting for something we become 'tense',
'anxious' and often 'agitated'. This may be as mild as impatience, or as
strong as anger.
If we are waiting for important news, or to hear from someone, we often
find it impossible to truly focus on anything else. Even when we KNOW that
our time would be better served doing something else WHILST we wait. It's
almost as though, nothing else matters- you find it hard to even read a
magazine article.
Prolonged periods of waiting; when there is no definite time limit can
often give us headaches, tense shoulders, if coupled with
anxiety can lead to more physical
complications.
Whilst there is no easy cure to ease any waiting period, regardless of
if you KNOW today is the day, or have NO idea when the news will come. If
you find that you simply can NOT concentrate or focus on anything else,
then probably the most productive thing you can focus on is 'Why' you have
placed so much importance on receiving, arriving or hearing that which you
are waiting for.
Relax
If possible, try to find something which will relax you. A hot bath or
shower, a meditation. Remember to breathe deeply (in through your nose and
out through your mouth), Put on some music, sing, dance, walk the dog.
Distracting yourself by keeping busy also works, but it does tend to wear
you out quicker. Because it keeps you tense. By doing things that are
relaxing, you stand half a chance at reducing the tension within your
body.
Uncertainty
Often, along with waiting. We allow ourselves to become anxious or we
worry about how things will turn out. Sometimes we feel afraid that things
will not work out as we hope.
It is important to try to stay calm and not focus on the negative
outcomes. Yes; it is wise to be prepared for any outcome. But you'll
probably be surprised that things never actually turn out EXACTLY as we
think they will. Fate likes to throw in a few surprises.
Waiting / Delays
Late train/ queues
/traffic etc.. We've all been there, feeling a tad frustrated because we
have to wait longer than we thought, these hold ups are going to make us
late for this or that and its going to mean making a few phone calls,
re-organising the day and blah blah... c'mon does it truly matter... is it
really worth raising your heart-rate for?
If your train is late..
well stop a minute... If you think you've got problems re-organising
your day; think of the rest of the folk around you - they are all in the
same boat, and someone somewhere is having to run around and re-schedule
platforms... it's chaos.. why add to it with a frustrated attitude.
These things happen,
it's part of life. If everything ran on time, if everything occurred
without waits or delays then we'd never get a moment to ourselves.
So in a more positive light; use waits and delays to
refocus your thoughts.
Mostly we get annoyed by such occurrences because we do
lead such busy lives, we like things to run on schedule because we know
where we are. Occasionally though this 'order' is so controlled that we
are unable to find a minute to even enjoy scheduled leisure time.
A final note
As with all things concerning ourselves. Our commitment to
ourselves works alongside our recognition of those things which throw us
out of balance.
When you understand WHY you have trouble waiting, the
waiting process CAN become easier. But it is YOUR responsibility to allow
it to be so.
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