Balance
For something to be out of balance,
there must have first been a balancing point. Whatever IS out of balance
CAN be rebalanced.
We all have the ability to find that balancing point.
It comes from expressing your truth in your life.
Occasionally to find balance we have to rid
ourselves of the emotions and situations which have caused the imbalance
in the first place.
Many imbalances have occurred slowly over many
years, thus it is wrong to presume that a 'magic wand' can be waved to
bring things back into that balancing point.
Inner Balance
Inner Balance is a sense of
well-being. It's a feeling of contentment and peace, that everything is as
it should be and that everything that you can see ahead is calm also.
Everything IS always as it should
be, even when we are facing difficult situations. Difficult situations are there to serve
our personal growth. Even, if that spiritual stance is hard for you to
fully take on board; if you can view every obstacle as an opportunity for
self awareness and growth, the hurdle will shrink.
Take responsibility of yourself
The key to finding balance is
accepting
responsibility for yourself.
To accept full responsibility for how
you are feeling, what you are thinking and what you are doing in your
life.
Balance will not come from anyone else. No one else can bring you
balance, they may bring comfort yet; they will not keep you IN balance.
You do that. You allow that.
Quit taking full responsibility
for others
As well as taking responsibility for
ourselves, we have to quit taking on everyone else's problems and allowing others to accept their
own
responsibilities.
YOU should not be taking on every one
else's
responsibilities to the
detriment
of yourself.
You should help, advise, assist, be
compassionate and understanding. Give what YOU can freely and happily
give. When other peoples issues take over your life, you need to step
back.
At times, we DO have to be
responsible for others. Yet, we should not seek to take FULL and complete
responsibility for every single aspect of another persons life, we must
seek others to share those responsibilities.
In terms of people whom need full
time care, you should try to find a way to share that care with others.
In terms of our children, we must
once they are of school age, start
teaching them how to be responsible for themselves (in small ways of
course!).
Feeling in balance
When you are feeling balanced,
stepping forward in your life isn't daunting or scary in any way.
It's as though you have complete trust in yourself. A little like; walking
along a plank of wood which is laying on the ground... it's easy to do...
Yet, when we are unbalanced, it's as though that plank of wood is twenty
foot from the ground. Suddenly we become cautious, fearful and doubtful.
Feeling out of balance
When we know what circumstances and
situations throw us off balance, suddenly we are like a tight rope walker.
Fully acknowledging those things which throw us out of balance, gives us an
imaginary balance bar to hold on to (should we choose), the next time we
are faced with a similar circumstance or situation.
Imagine a time when you felt
completely in balance. This may have been last week, last year, or many
many years ago. Whenever it was, just pull yourself back to that moment
for a second or two.
The key now, is to bring forward
that feeling of balance to now.
It's not an easy task. First we must
acknowledge what is knocking us OUT of balance; without placing ANY blame
on anyone else.
Your feeling of imbalance is
YOURS.
Your feeling of imbalance is YOURS.
Take ownership of it and acknowledge that it is YOUR responsibility to
re-balance.
No-one else can do it for you. You can take advice and
temporary support from friends and family, but it is down to you to stand
firmly on your own two feet.
Write down an 'imbalance' list.
Which contains everything which you feel is bringing you 'down' NOW and
includes all things which 'can and do' knock you off balance (which you
may be feeling ok about now, but you know at times get you - like
embarrassment, lack of confidence in certain circumstances etc).
Should you find yourself blaming
your imbalance on someone else, or on someone else's actions, you need to
pull yourself back and ask WHY (Please see
Blame ).
Should you find yourself feeling or
lingering on any of the following emotions; please click through for a
read, and please try to find a way to clear the emotion which is 'stuck'
Your 'imbalance' list may just have
a single item on it, it may have several. We can all think of things which
we would like to attain to improve our sense of balance.
Balance not only comes from
emotional contentment, but also from contentment financially, within our
families, within our career and from spiritual matters.
It is important to try to consider
all aspects of your life, the big things as well as the small things.
It will take commitment from
yourself to bring these things into balance, It will mean you will have to
take sole responsibility for yourself. take one item from your list at a
time and work your way through it.
If you do this well and thoroughly,
you shall benefit no end.
Consistent Effort
Retaining your balance, may take
consistent effort.
As soon as we think we've dealt with
and worked through all of our triggers; something else comes along which
bowls us over and knocks us out of sync again.
"Damn!" we shout, "Thought I'd
cracked it!"
However, those knocks and bowls, you
will find are easier to recover from as and when they occur.
Even recovering from the same knocks
will take less and less time for you to recover your balance. Until
eventually your foundations are solid and you can react from a point of
balance.
"Where there is pretence, there is
rarely progress. Where there is honesty, success is never far away."
Jonathan Cainer
Progress will be slow if you can not
be truly honest with yourself.
