Hiding Feeling
Hiding how you feel from someone
else is not just against The Rules Of Life, it's also guaranteed to make
sure that they can't help you.
"Focus on your truth and let
someone else define theirs as they will"
Jonathan Cainer
Sometimes it 'can' get hard to be
honest with other people - like you kind of 'pussyfoot' around to trying
to be sensitive.
So long as one is truthful with ones self, then it doesn't matter what
anyone else believes is right.
Hiding things from others
When we hide things from others; it
is not lying, but an absence of truth.
Consider the reasons why YOU do not
wish to share or impart what you know.
It'll be because either you don't
want others to see you in that light; or because you are trying to protect
them.
The truth always comes out in the
end.
Incomplete Facts
When we do not give people a
complete set of information, they are only working and living from what
THEY know to be the truth.
Basically we allowing them to be
ignorant of critical factors in regards to the situation.
You may feel that they will be hurt
or upset, but you are also only working on theory.
Swap Shoes
If you feel the need to say or do something, yet your primary concern is
not putting your foot in things/causing trouble/upsetting someone/letting
sleeping dogs lie, consider first if the roles were reversed. Would you
want someone to inform you, and if YES, how would YOU want to hear it?
There are three ways of pointing something out to someone.
1) There's the abrupt way, which will raise hackles and defences. This can
have it's value. As behind ones defences things still sink in and
depending on the person may or may not be acted upon. If the person is
surrounded by fears, this approach can cause retreat and arguments.
2) There's the subtle way, making suggestions, yet not really getting to
the point and just hoping that the person will get the hint. This too can
have its value, as all things are absorbed in time. Eventually that person
will think things were their idea!
3) The honest approach, saying 'Look, I don't want to interfere but feel I
must just say this'.
Be sincere, understand who they are and if you remain calm, if you can
refrain from making any judgements and criticisms of that person, then
honesty can have immediate power. ... Do be careful that you are being
truly honest though, be sure that what you are suggesting isn't about YOU,
for your benefits of motives, otherwise it can easily turn into the abrupt
approach and cause more agro. Be aware that no one likes to be judged or
told what to do.
Honesty, truly is the best policy.
